Getting married in America

From an American documentary called Getting Married in America, shown tonight on TV.

Black American man whose mother originally came from Haiti is getting married to his nextdoor neighbour, a white woman. They have known each other since they were four and five years old.
The bridegroom tells about his mother's initial reaction to getting a white daughter-in-law: "Back then she would have preferred me unhappy with a woman from Haiti."

Perhaps both choices stem from the same - chosing what you feel is familiar to you.
For the mother that was Haiti. For the son it was his American neighbourhood.